Is it really "All in the mind" ?

There's a saying "it's all in your mind"...is this true?...

Absolutely! 100%..The Mind can alter the way you look at things so you are unable to put things into perspective properly, change your way of thinking & indeed make you think there are things in life that you "need" and "must have". This could be said about so many things from the latest I Phone to that delicious chocolate gateaux you just can't resist on the supermarket shelf..Of course clever advertising & marketing "plants the seed" the you must have it!

In my case my "must have" was what I thought was an addiction "alcohol" one of the worst, most harmful & totally underestimated drugs ever in my eyes. Capable of ruining lives & if you let it..taking lives. I thought I was dependent on this demon for some 25 years..for most of these blurred years alcohol completely ruled my life, ruined most of it...and in the end nearly took it.

So after falling ill after my 25 year bender I decided that enough was enough...I didn't want to wake up feeling so bad every day...having to down enough alcohol to stop me shaking enough to deal with the day..indeed having to plan ahead and think about my day and ensure alcohol would be available to me at all times..weather this meant filling a coke bottle with brandy to make it through a flight or hiding a bottle under a cupboard from my partner so it was available when I thought I needed it. Indeed alcohol had a far bigger influence over me than any women ever did...it was my all & everything.

A total necessity that had to be involved at all points possible...even to the extent of missing my daughters birth because I was in a bar busy drinking. The "hold" that this drug can take can be so strong....or so I always thought. Until one day when I woke up, dry, sweating,trying to remember what happened the previous day & looking like a bloated old man far older than my years. Something in my mind said "Enough".

I had one meeting and spoke to my GP and I must thank him for his words..because they stuck with me..even to this day. He said "You must tell yourself Mark. Not that you are going to cut down or take a break from drinking (which is what I was telling myself or what I was hoping for) you must tell yourself that you are never drinking again! I was shocked...but as time went on I realized how right he was and as the sweaty, shaky days passed I slowly got better, stronger & fitter. My whole life changed..for the better in so many ways....indeed it was a completely different life in so many ways..socially,family wise,financially...the hardest thing for me?..filling the huge gap of time that was left by not drinking..it was massive.

I started to enjoy different things that I would never of previously had time for..shopping,,family ect. As time passed & I was feeling better I loved my new life. Not having to worry about money or if I had enough to get me through the day...People I bumped into that knew me said "Hi your looking well" as my bloated stomach began to shrink, the bags under my eyes shrank and the redness in my cheeks faded. This in-fact helped me a lot in staying on the right road & after a long time I could honestly say that I wouldn't want a drink now anyway.

I have far to many bad memories that I wouldn't entertain it now...if only I had realized this earlier. I would indeed be a very rich man in my own right..but I'm alive!..i have some lovely family & most of all I'm happy!

Comments for Is it really "All in the mind" ?

Average Rating starstarstarstarstar

Click here to add your own comments

Sep 02, 2015
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
Good Work NEW
by: Anonymous

An intelligent way of conveying your point, a must read I suggest everyone to read this.
Usually I do not read everything on internet but you are an exceptional always read your blog.
Online best company to buy Vinyl Stickers

Jun 24, 2015
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
yes NEW
by: Anonymous

Hi, yes that's fine, Many thanks.

Jun 23, 2015
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
Good post NEW
by: Joshuah MacGyver

Hi! Thanks for your site!
May I share with your article on my blog Labels-and-Tags with a link for you as an author?

Thanks for answering!

Jul 22, 2014
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
COME ON MY BOY XX
by: YOUR DAD,XX

FIRST OF ALL CAN I SAY YOU ARE AN INSPIRATION TO EVERYBODY MY BOY, XX
AND IT JUST SHOWS WHAT CAN BE DONE BY HAVING A CHAT WITH YOUR G,P,
BUT MOST OF ALL AT THE END OF THE DAY, IT WAS YOUR DETERMINATION AND WILLPOWER,
TO BRING YOU BACK TO A FINE UPSTANDING------- INTELEGENT ------WITTY AND MOST OF ALL HEALTHY MAN AS YOU ARE TODAY,
BUT THANK GOD YOU SAW THE LIGHT AND THROUGH SHEER GUTS AND DETERMINATION YOU HAVE COMPLETELY TURNED YOUR LIFE AROUND,
I HAVE NOTHING BUT RESPECT AND ADMIRATION FOR WHAT YOU HAVE ACHIEVED, ( WELL DONE )
JUST CARRY ON ENJOYING LIFE MY BOY FOR MANY MORE YEARS TO COME
IN MY EYES YOU ARE THE SUN ------ MOON AND THE STARS,
I AM SO PROUD ----- LUCKY AND BLESSED TO HAVE A SON LIKE YOU, XXXXXX
LOTS OF LOVE FOREVER YOUR DADDY, XXXXXXXX.

Jul 21, 2014
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
you're a star
by: sylvie

Well you have achieved what most people can only dream of and all through sheer positive determination You have an amazing sense of who you are & you are here to tell the tale I admire your courage &willpower &yes your positive approach you have an understading wise mind YOU ARE A STAR

Click here to add your own comments

Join in and write your own page! It's easy to do. How? Simply click here to return to Share Your Positive Stories With Us!.

Share This Page!